Single Vs Married…
Today I saw the Tyra show and it was basically about single women vs married women and it compared them in different ways. The show showed how single women were living the dream, having great careers, completely successful but they were lonely and society always put them down. Married women had Love and a family but at the same time most of them had to stop living for themselves and start living for someone else, forgetting about their dreams,careers and goals they basically become only wives and mothers nothing else.
The show left me lost cause I don’t know which path to take. I don’t know if I should be a wife and have a family because I have to many dreams and am not sure if am ready to give up on them but at the same time am scared to grow old and not have someone waiting for me at home. I don’t want to be a house wife, I want to do things and live for myself I don’t want to quit being me but at the same time I want to learn what love is and I would enjoy to share my success with someone else. Is it possible to be in the middle, to be a wife and a successful carrer woman who is living the dream without giving up to who you really are? You tell me?
I think so. Imagine old school psychologist John ROsemond talking to you – he would say that you have to maintain a sense of self to ever be a good wife or a good parent to children. Its a pyramid in my book – all things building upon the other. If I am not seucre with myself and have a strong sense of self, then how can I be a good partner to a husband. Likewise, if I do not have a strong, healthy relationship with my husband, then how can we, as parents TOGETHER, be good role models for our children. I see the distinction between married and single friends. Most of my friends are married and are mothers now too..except me – and a few others. Its great though. I dont feel lonley at all and love my life. Im still figuring out who I am and defining who I want to be. I also enjoy be a part of my friends’ lives as they enjoy being a part of mine. Both sides can bring good perspectives to the table and, if nothing else, some really funny stories for girlfriends to laugh about!